I don’t set New Years resolutions. They don’t stick. I do however write goals. I think goals in all aspects of our life are really important because it gives us purpose. The thing is most people don’t actually take the time out to really sit down and think about what they really want in their life. Most people will make some flaky resolutions that don’t stick and they wonder why. If you want more meaning and purpose in your life then writing some goals will help you create a vision for your life. It doesn’t take long to do and it can really be the driver you need to make some big changes in your life.
I usually sit down every 6 months and write out my goals. I set goals for 5 years, 3 years, 1 yr and 6 months and then I write myself monthly goals. Writing out goals is really powerful as it puts it out to the universe and makes it more intentional than just saying you have a few NY resolutions.
My 5 step goal setting process
- Reflect on your previous years achievements and goals – The successful and not so successful.
Look back at the year that has been and write down all the things that you have achieved. I also look back at the things that were not so great & ask yourself why they were not so great? If you set some goals that you didn’t achieve ask yourself why? What happened? It is important to disect your failures so you can learn from them. Perhaps the goals you set didn’t have enough meaning to them so you weren’t inspired to achieve them or perhaps you felt that were just to large to achieve. Look at the real reason why these goals didn’t happen.
- Work out your core desired feelings.
I leant this from Danielle LaPort, the author of The Desire Map and The Fire Starter Sessions. She teaches how to do goals with soul. This was a total game changer for me.
Danielle explains that is not the goal we are frantically trying to achieve, but rather the FEELING that achieving the goal will give us. This realisation for me was revolutionary. I completely changed the way I was looking at things and then my goals totally changed as I linked how I wanted to feel to my goals.I started doing things in my life that felt right and good rather than doing things I thought was right. I changed from thinking with my head to listening to my heart.
Often we are chasing goals that we think will make us feel a certain way but in reality won’t achieve this desired feeling so when we reach the goal we feel disappointed. Our goals are not in alignment with out core-desired feelings. If we first identify how we want to feel and then set out goals around these feelings it will totally change what goals you want to achieve. It will change the decisions you make and it blocks out the noise. Every thing becomes so much clearer because you are aiming to feel a certain set of feeling more often.
I recommend reading her book however if you have a massive pile of books to read like I do then get the audio book. Go through her exercises and find your core-desired feelings.
The cliff notes of finding your core desired feeling are:
- Write down a whole list of feeling words on how you want to feel in your life
- Circle the ones that resonate with you the most and really ‘ light’ you up
- Narrow it down to a top ten
- Write them out on post it notes and stick them somewhere you can see them for a while ( it could be hours or weeks)
- When you look at them pull out ones that really stand out and remove the ones that don’t totally resonate
- Narrow it down to 3-5 works and voila you have your core-desired feelings.
My core desired feeling are:
Whenever I have a big decision I always ask myself the question: Will this decision bring me closer to my core desired feelings? The decisions then become effortless when I follow how I want to feel. It also helps with motivation. For example when I want to eat something that isn’t good for me I can ask myself the same question. Will this food or action take me further or closer to my core desired feelings? This can be applied to most things in your life.
- Let your imagination run free
Grab some scrap paper and write down all the things you want to do in your life and what does your perfect life look like using your core desired feelings as your guide. Go wild! No really. No holding back! Spend a good 20 mins minimum on this part.Doing this exercise will help you create a vision for your life. Consciously design your 2015! The clearer you are the more powerful it is!
As you are writing ask yourself the following questions
What does my health and wellness look like?
What does my romantic life look like?
What does my family life look like?
What contributions am I making?
How am I going to serve others?
What does my career/ business look like?
What do my finances look like?
What do I do for fun?
What does my spiritual life look like?
What does my environment look like?
- Set Your goals
Now you have created a vision of what your life is to look like it is time to start setting some clear actionable goals that are going to get you living more from a desired feeling type of life. Try to make these need to specific and measurable.
Start with 5-year goals and work your way down to 6 months. Divide your goals into areas of your life. I generally do this as:
- Business/ Career
- Health & Wellness
In each section you should have 1-3 goals especially for the 6 and 12-month goals. If you do too many you will become overwhelmed and you will just fall back on your freckle!
- 30 Day actionable plan
Now write actionable plan on what you’re going to do this month to reach your 6-month goals. These ideally should be things that you can do each and everyday that are going to help you achieve this 6 month goal.
Finally stick your GOAL and your CORE DESIRED FEELINGS somewhere you can see them everyday. You need to get them into your head so they stick and so you stay motivated to stay on track.
Goals with Soul. It’s the new black.
May your 2015 be full of love, creativity, fun, connection and fulfillment.